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‘Twinks,’ ‘Hard Femmes,’ and ‘Drag Queens’ Are Welcome on OkCupid

By M. Christian
July 9, 2021
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The dating site unveiled 19 new identities for Pride Month, while its competitors continue to offer limited options.

rainbow gay pride balloons

Last month, OkCupid announced that users can now choose from 19 new identities, with the intention of fostering inclusivity for the site’s LGBTQ+ users.

The list was developed in partnership with the Human Rights Campaign, and includes identities such as “hard femme,” “twink,” and “drag queen.” The titles can be displayed on users’ profiles and used as search filters.

With this addition, OkCupid users can now select from over 60 different gender and orientation identities.

Bumble has also attempted to foster inclusivity

Other dating platforms are also upping the ante to provide ways for users to define their gender and orientation.

While not as expansive as OkCupid, the female-empowering platform Bumble allows users to identify as Cisgender, Asexual, Bigender, Androgyne, and similar options.

And if a user can’t find an identity that suits them, there’s a built-in way to contact Bumble to suggest one that does.

Most dating sites are behind the times

Person holding trans pride flag out of sunroof

Unfortunately, Bumble and OkCupid are proving to be the exception among dating apps. Their competitors continue to limit their users to limited identity options.

In 2019, Tinder, in partnership with the queer-visibility organization GLAAD, unveiled a feature that allows users to choose up to three sexual orientations out of nine total options.

However, this limited roll out has not been expanded upon, and the only choices for gender expression on the app are male, female, or other.

The right to express yourself

Inclusivity remains elusive on dating sites, and it is imperative that the trend towards greater acceptance continues.

Image sources: GPA Photo Archive, Ted Eytan

M. Christian

M.Christian (they/them) loves nothing better than exploring the intersections of sex and technology—and speculating on the future of both. A highly regarded erotica writer they have six novels,12 collections, 100+ short stories, and 25 anthologies as an editor to their name. Their non-fiction regularly appears in many sites, but they're most proud of being a regular contributor to Future of Sex.

Of their erotic fiction, Tristan Taormino said that “M.Christian is a literary stylist of the highest caliber: smart, funny, frightening, sexy—there's nothing [they] can't write about… and brilliantly.”

Reflecting their unique ability to sympathetically and convincingly write for a range of genders and sexual orientations, their stories have appeared in multiple editions of Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, The Mammoth Books of Erotica, and others. Their collection of gay erotic fiction, Dirty Words, was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award.

While a majority of their stories have been collected into books like Dirty Words, their fondness for combining sex and science fiction is clearly evident in collections that include Rude Mechanicals, Technorotica, Better Than The Real Thing, Skin Effect Effect, Bachelor Machine, and Hard Drive: The Best Sci-Fi Erotica of M.Christian.

As a novelist, M.Christian’s versatility is on full display with Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Brushes, Painted Doll; and the somewhat controversial queer BDSM/horror/thrillers Finger's Breadth, and Me2.

M.Christian has worked on the industry’s production side as an Associate Publisher for Renaissance E Books and as a Publisher for Digital Parchment Services. The latter dedicated to celebrating the works of science-fiction legends such as William Rotsler, Jerome Bixby, Jody Scott, Arthur Byron Cover, Ernest Hogan, and James Van Hise.

Covering topics like BDSM safety, sexual education, senior sexuality concerns, queer and gender issues, plus reviewing a variety of sex tech products, M.Christian’s non-fiction has appeared on sites like Kinkly, Tickle.Life, Sexpert, Queer Majority, Sex for Every Body, and—of course—their ongoing work for Future of Sex.

If there’s anything M.Christian enjoys more than writing, it’s teaching. A featured presenter, sometimes with their friend Ralph Greco Jr, at national sex and BDSM events, they have lectured on kink play (with an emphasis on safety), polyamory, boosting sexual creativity, and erotica writing--for beginners or those wanting to go pro.

M.Christian is a cohost on two popular sex-education podcasts: Love’s Outer Limits with Dr. Amy Marsh and Licking Non-Vanilla with Ralph Greco, Jr.
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