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Racist Terminology Plagues Computing and BDSM Languages

By M. Christian
June 4, 2021
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Controversy surrounds the use of “slave” and “master” in both communities.

Image of Computer Server System with Red, Blue and Yellow Wires

While your typical user may not be aware of them, racially insensitive terms such as “master” and “slave” are still used to describe various computer systems.

However, the Internet Engineering Task Force (IETF), the group that establishes and upholds technical standards for the internet, recommended that words like master and slave be replaced by newer, more respectful terminology.

This suggestion reflects a growing belief that Romantic languages carry a great deal of inherent racism and sexism.

And this problem is not localized to computer engineering, as racist words exist in other places as well—including its continuing presence in the BDSM community.

Exposing offensive computer terms

Frame from Saturday's Black Lives Matter march through downtown Baltimore City.

Spurred by calls for racial justice and challenges to hateful symbols and language, the computer industry has begun examining terminology like “slave” and “master.”

In response to this, the IETF released their “Statement On Oppressive or Exclusionary Language.” In the statement, the force acknowledged their own use of offensive words in their documents and asked for proposals on how to update these and other terms.

As a result, three groups each submitted separate proposals. In March, the IETF established a group with the explicit goal to examine each proposal and reach a consensus on the issue by the end of 2021.

If accomplished, this would be a major step towards greater inclusivity and awareness in the industry.

Sex, language, and BDSM

Image of Statue of a Slave Cuffed in Iron Chain

There’s another place where offensive words like “master” and “slave” are used—BDSM. These terms are so prominent that they are almost inextricably intertwined with how those involved see themselves and others.

The BDSM community is plagued by this issue, and it’s going to require a lot of thought, and even more work, to move beyond it.

In my opinion, as a long-time member of the BDSM community, reluctance seems to stem from the idea that these terms are traditional.

For many, words like “slave” and “master” are ingrained in BDSM history. They believe that replacing the terms with more socially-conscious options would disrespect the members who fought for the right to express their sexuality.

There’s also the issue of ideology: some believe that these words encapsulate a power exchange dynamic as no other words can.

Again, this is from my own experience and is a radically simplified view of a complex situation.

I’m not about to say that the community must change, as that would be a consent violation, which is what conscientious and responsible BDSM is all about.

And yet, the language remains and refusing to change it becomes more unforgivable as time goes on.

The power of open dialogues

The IETF and their recognition of racist language in the computer industry may offer a possible solution for the BDSM community. Group consensus may be the best way to make significant change, and to make sure it’s widely accepted and supported.

In this spirit, I’d like to propose that the BDSM community open a dialogue about this issue to educate people about why terms like master and slave are offensive and, from there, what words might replace them.

I believe this idea will be met with great reluctance, to put it mildly, but there’s consent on the line: not only in not trying to force people to change the words they use but that the use of racist words—without permission—is a violation of it.

Looking ahead

Picture of Graffiti Art of HOPE

In gaining awareness of how inherently racist, sexist, and offensive language is, humanity will hopefully realize the importance of leaving terms like “master” and “slave” behind us.

Words to possibly replace them, in whatever way they’re used, are a matter of discussion.

No matter what they’ll be, the takeaway should be to expand our awareness and our vocabulary. 

Image sources: Norlando Pobre, John Lucia, Cliff James, Kathy Drasky

M. Christian

M.Christian (they/them) loves nothing better than exploring the intersections of sex and technology—and speculating on the future of both. A highly regarded erotica writer they have six novels,12 collections, 100+ short stories, and 25 anthologies as an editor to their name. Their non-fiction regularly appears in many sites, but they're most proud of being a regular contributor to Future of Sex.

Of their erotic fiction, Tristan Taormino said that “M.Christian is a literary stylist of the highest caliber: smart, funny, frightening, sexy—there's nothing [they] can't write about… and brilliantly.”

Reflecting their unique ability to sympathetically and convincingly write for a range of genders and sexual orientations, their stories have appeared in multiple editions of Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, The Mammoth Books of Erotica, and others. Their collection of gay erotic fiction, Dirty Words, was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award.

While a majority of their stories have been collected into books like Dirty Words, their fondness for combining sex and science fiction is clearly evident in collections that include Rude Mechanicals, Technorotica, Better Than The Real Thing, Skin Effect Effect, Bachelor Machine, and Hard Drive: The Best Sci-Fi Erotica of M.Christian.

As a novelist, M.Christian’s versatility is on full display with Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Brushes, Painted Doll; and the somewhat controversial queer BDSM/horror/thrillers Finger's Breadth, and Me2.

M.Christian has worked on the industry’s production side as an Associate Publisher for Renaissance E Books and as a Publisher for Digital Parchment Services. The latter dedicated to celebrating the works of science-fiction legends such as William Rotsler, Jerome Bixby, Jody Scott, Arthur Byron Cover, Ernest Hogan, and James Van Hise.

Covering topics like BDSM safety, sexual education, senior sexuality concerns, queer and gender issues, plus reviewing a variety of sex tech products, M.Christian’s non-fiction has appeared on sites like Kinkly, Tickle.Life, Sexpert, Queer Majority, Sex for Every Body, and—of course—their ongoing work for Future of Sex.

If there’s anything M.Christian enjoys more than writing, it’s teaching. A featured presenter, sometimes with their friend Ralph Greco Jr, at national sex and BDSM events, they have lectured on kink play (with an emphasis on safety), polyamory, boosting sexual creativity, and erotica writing--for beginners or those wanting to go pro.

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