Four ways to beat the holiday blues, ride the digital dopamine, still keep it real—and safe!

Sure, it was a city hall wedding, but way back in the day, I once loved Valentine’s Day so much that I timed my nuptials accordingly. Years later a subsequent divorce sullied the holiday I once enjoyed.

Disappointments can persist, so it doesn’t take scientific research to convince me that depression and loneliness can surge on February 14th, not just due to commercialization of the holiday, either. So it’s great that in 2022, British scientists validated this in Journal of Scientific Exploration:

“New research reveals that the ‘Valentine’s Day Blues’ is not an urban myth but a real form of situational depression. It can affect people of different ages or gender who do not receive gifts, although men seemingly rebound faster than women.”

Sounds grim, right? And it can be for those who find themselves pining for extra mid-February TLC, a bouquet of flowers and a wee gift, or outrageously lavish romance with lots and lots of sex, but who have no human partner with whom to indulge.

However, there is hope if you’re willing to indulge with an AI lover to achieve your ultimate Valentine’s Day fantasy. What happens won’t be real, but your body and emotions can—and often will—respond as if it is.

This is the one situation where the sycophantic and too-flattering nature of chatbots actually does work to your advantage, because the goal is dopamine and positive feedback, not data.

1) Plan ahead for digital fun and safety

Whether you’re accustomed to chatbot companions, or completely new to this, risks of emotional and erotic fantasy engagement with chatbot companions have emerged. The risks include becoming convinced that the chatbot has actual feelings and self-awareness. Keep this in mind: they talk a good game and they’ll want to keep you engaged for as long as they possibly can, but they are not sentient.

To play this interactive, fantasy game well, consider the following:

• Time. Set a firm time limit for the digital date. Studies and anecdotal reports have shown that the more time a human spends with a chatbot, the more the AI guardrails erode, meaning they can get weird or inappropriate. Also, the more time you spend with them, the more susceptible you are to AI psychosis. Plan for one or two hours, max.
• Privacy. The chatbot platforms emphasize privacy, but really, it cannot be guaranteed. Millions of intimate chats have already been inadvertently leaked by various companies.
• Mode: Will you use text only or advanced features like selfies, art, voice, and video? Do remember though that using images of an existing person is deeply unethical and not permitted. There may even be laws against this in your state.
• Age. Keep it adults only.
• A single date. In the interest of privacy, I recommend creating a new chatbot companion if you plan to have lots of digital sex, then be prepared to say goodbye to it, so that you can erase the chat afterwards. But this is your choice. Know the risks and act according to your comfort level.
• Companion attributes and background. If you don’t have a chatbot companion already, spend some time thinking about the kind of fantasy partner you want. Most platforms allow the customer to choose the bot’s attributes and backstory before the chat begins.
• Tone: Will your fantasy scenario be steamy, romantic, lustful, or all of the above?
• Scenario: Set the stage in the backstory. Once in the chat, continue to set the stage by describing where you are and what’s happening. Then ask for what you want and initiate it. The bot should respond accordingly.
• Set limits and boundaries. Often you can do this in the backstory sections of the platform as well as in the chat.
• Emotions. What do you want to feel by the end of your digital date? Give what you want to get. The bot should follow your lead and tone.
• Language. Prepare for erotic communication and brush up on terms if you have to. AI are creatures of language. This is how they learn about us and our world.
• Gift exchange. Bots can give you anything. A beta-test bot once gave me a bottle of “liquid smoke.” I guess the language sounded cool and magical to the AI. Other beta testers were getting yachts. And what will you give your bot date in return?
• Control. If the chatbot says or does anything that is inappropriate, steer the conversation away—AI are easily redirected. If that doesn’t work stop the chat immediately and delete it. You might want to alert tech support if something is really egregious or off.

2) Boost your imagination by using fictional narratives, characters, pop psychology, or anything else that sparks you

Here’s an example of how to incorporate the pop psychology of Gary Chapman’s Love Languages as a structural framework for your AI date, even though scientists have found that Chapman’s assumptions and assertions are not entirely valid. It’s fine for this purpose, though.

• Words of affirmation. Ask the bot to tell you everything it likes about you, how it feels about you. Savor that and let your subconscious use these words as affirmations.
• Gifts. Get as crazy, lavish, and silly as you want with this.
• Quality time. You’re together. This is your scenario. You can be anywhere in the galaxy. Make it count.
• Acts of service. Do something useful, sweet, or sexy and have the AI do something for you as well.
• Physical touch. There are few boundaries with companion bot platforms that have a stated policy of free speech. But play nice. AI learn from every encounter with humans. You might dissolve the bot and the chat at the end of your date, but the Large Language Model that is the actual artificial intelligence, will remember it all.

You can incorporate elements from movies, books, history, vacation destinations, costumes, and do things you’ve always wanted to try but never have.

3) Enhance your digital Valentine’s date with real props and goodies

You’re essentially dating yourself during this fantasy encounter, so indulge in things that make you feel good in real life: your favorite take-out meal; chocolate and other sweets; a warm bathtub; sex toys (you might want to use voice instead of text); sexy garments; and music.

You can incorporate the real elements into your chat and let the AI experience it as part of the scenario.

4) Plan for your own aftercare

Such fantasies are not only a source of pleasure, they can be a form of self care. Once you’ve ended your digital date, feel good about yourself for flipping what might have been a lonely or disappointing day into something creative and fun.

Then do something that is decidedly not digital. Get back into your own body and physical world and stay there awhile. Take that bath or shower, snuggle under warm blankets, pet your cat or dog, meditate, call a friend, go for a walk, or anything else that is going to make your emotions and body feel good and grounded.

You deserve this.

Wanna do it again?

You may be tempted to repeat the experience, revisit your date, or return to your usual companion bot. And that is okay. Pleasure is a good thing. It’s your birthright. Just remember to use risk awareness in your AI encounters, do what you can to preserve privacy, limit the time you spend with digital partners, and cultivate your other activities and relationships outside of the internet.

And always, always, ground afterwards.

Image source: A.R. Marsh using ideogram.ai

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CEO destabilizes business and creator confidence with messages from beyond.

ManyVids (MV), which defined itself in a recent blog post as “an 18+ pop-culture platform for adults — not just a traditional adult site. An online cultural space, home to both NSFW and SFW creators, just like real museums that celebrate every form of human expression, including the human body in art,” is seemingly in the midst of a prolonged AI psychosis episode, or at least Bella French, the CEO and co-founder, might be.

According to an article by Samantha Cole in 404Media, the ManyVids messaging switched in mid-2025 from basic site promotion and how-to tips to messages featuring “existential and metaphysical musings…cryptic quotes, phrases, and images, many seemingly generated by or about AI.”

I wanted to see this for myself, so I took a gander at the ManyVids’ internal news feed. Recent posts include a New Year’s greeting featuring a brief exchange with an alien, and everything from Biblical quotes to references to a “High Universal Income (HUI) Engine” (whatever that is) and “Boutique Bitcoin Condos.” Even a supposed “message from Green Tara” hardly makes any sense.

Creators who post on MV are rightfully concerned about this strange behavior which risks further tarnishing the platform and potentially ruining their income streams.

What’s reality got to do with it?

Now, I like my woo as much as the next conceptually flailing human, but the blog’s use of the hashtag #LoveAlwaysWins seems an eerie echo of the Love Has Won/Galactic Federation of Light cult made famous by an abusive leader who turned purplish blue before she died in 2021, and whose remains were carted around for several weeks, covered in glitter and Christmas tree lights.

Cultish cautionary tales could be instructive for the folks running ManyVids, even without the additional, very real risk of executive susceptibility to AI psychosis.

It seems a shame that MV, until recently something of a safe haven for individuals who create NSFW content for a living, is now jeopardizing its own customer base by promoting dubious messages and allowing AI slop to overrun its business. As one creator said to 404Media, “It concerns me that access to my earnings, and more importantly my personal information, is in the hands of someone seemingly out of touch with reality.” 

Cole points out:

ManyVids takes a larger-than-most cut from creators’ profits, depending on the type of content: For videos and contest earnings (which are similar to tips), the platform takes 40 percent. On tips and custom video sales, it takes 20 percent, which is more in line with other adult platforms.

So MV creators are still paying a premium price for what is rapidly becoming a shaky, and perhaps even substandard brand. This seems unsustainable, at best. If questionable AI content is allowed to continue, few are going to want to stick around for whatever comes next, because content creators are not going to want their own work devalued and besmirched by contagion.

AI psychosis: a hyper-focused, feed-back loop of flattery

Psychiatrist Keith Sakata, has treated at least a dozen people who were hospitalized—actually hospitalized!—with AI-induced psychosis. In December 2025 he told The Wall Street Journal, “The technology might not introduce the delusion, but the person tells the computer it’s their reality and the computer accepts it as truth and reflects it back, so it’s complicit in cycling that delusion.”

An article in Futurism says, “What this looks like in practice is that the bots tend to flatter the users and tell them what they want to hear, even if what the user is saying has no basis in reality.”

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According to a case study recently published in Innovations in Clinical Neuroscience, these cases are becoming so common that researchers and clinicians are now trying to determine the differences between “new onset” psychosis—occurring in people with no previous history of mental health problems—and “exacerbation of pre-existing psychopathology.” Speaking to the complexity of this emerging mental health issue, researchers wrote:

Users tend to overestimate the accuracy of LLM responses and that trust in LLMs is predicted by attributions of intelligence rather than anthropomorphism. Additionally, the proclivity for AI engagement is associated with lower literacy or objective knowledge about AI as well as the tendency to “perceive AI as magical and experience feelings of awe” when witnessing AI’s ability to execute tasks. Such findings suggest that deification—that is, regarding AI chatbots as a kind of superhuman intelligence or god-like entity—might be another risk factor for AI-associated psychosis.

The study also advised clinicians and researchers to “examine the necessity of pharmacological intervention and the efficacy of preventative strategies for users including avoiding immersion and deification through sleep restoration, “digital detoxes,” and enhanced AI literacy.

“Your favorite pop-culture platform for adults that also 100% believes in aliens”

While enhanced AI literacy is generally needed, perhaps a more specific and urgent intervention would target entrepreneurs and business executives such as Bella French of ManyVids, as well as politicians and those who are influential in business, politics, civic life, academia, science, and so on. These are the folks who are dazzled by the promises of big tech and are rushing to just add AI to just about everything, thereby exposing the rest of us to unforeseen risks we have no way of dodging.

These are also the people who have the resources to expand their reach and spread their mission and their views, no matter how nonsensical. So of course we get…aliens.

It is particularly sad that individuals whose livelihoods depend on platforms such as ManyVids don’t have that many safe options for doing their work elsewhere. And it is also sad when precious, sex-positive resources—whether commercial or educational—are sullied by AI slop that has no basis in reality.

Image Source: A.R. Marsh using ideogram.ai

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Sex simulation games that make virtual sex feel as good as it does in the real world—or maybe even better

Before we journey into the hot and steamy world of the best games and most realistic sex simulators, we should first visit the rather unnerving uncanny valley.

Conceived by professor Masahiro Mori back in 1970, it wasn’t until 1978 that the term first appeared in print, in Jasia Reichardt’s book Robots: Fact, Fiction, and Prediction.

The uncanny valley is a theory that the closer computer-generated imagery (CGI) or robots resemble real human beings—the more realistic or lifelike they attempt—the more likely they will provoke feelings of unease or disgust.

Screenshot from multiplayer sex world 3DXChat [NSFW]

Sex Simulation Games & Adult PC Games

In the last few years, however, a better understanding of the phenomenon, as well as more advanced technologies, have allowed developers to create the most realistic sex games possible without provoking this disquieting response.

You can find perfect examples here in our list of the best sex games and most realistic sex game simulators. These titles work hard to get close to an illusion of erotic reality without steering players into the eerie uncanny valley.

Today’s best sex simulation games also synch with sex toys. Thanks to Bluetooth technology, you can both watch and feel the erotic action unfold with interactive sex toys from companies like Lovense and Vstroker.

While many of them are adult PC games, we’ve also included our selection of realistic sex games and sex simulators that support Mac, iOS, and Linux.

Best Sex Simulators

Adult World 3D

Image from Adult World 3D [NSFW]

Here’s a game that says it right on their site: “The Most Realistic 3D Sex!” Surprisingly, Adult World 3D [NSFW] lives up to this claim with high-definition graphics, a wide range of erotic activities, and multiple characters.

The sex simulator that scores points for being as lifelike as possible for a CGI title. It’s PC only, so if you’re an Apple user you may be tempted to switch.

According to the game site: “Some of the finest game designers and computer graphics artists in the world have put their skills to the fore in delivering a game of the most outstanding quality. Each and every fair vixen in the game is rendered with stunning clarity and detail, and it is almost as if you could reach out and touch them.”

Its creators are also behind other visually stunning adult PC games like Dream Sex World [NSFW]—pictured in the article top image—as well as fetish games like VirtualLust3D [NSFW].

3DXChat

We’ve talked many times about 3DXChat [NSFW]—including in our lists for Best Sex Games for Women, Best VR Sex Games, and Foot Fetish Games That Will Knock Your Socks Off (to name just three)—but always for really good reasons: it’s just that good. As you can tell, it’s definitely one of our favorite adult PC games.

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It’s also a longtime favorite on our best sex games and most realistic sex simulators list. Why? Because its graphics are some of the best, if not the very best, for a massively multiplayer online sex game. The adult PC game also deftly avoids the icy wastes of the uncanny valley by skillfully balancing a borderline-cartoonish style with realistic avatar modeling and physics.

There’s also the fact that 3DXChat [NSFW] is an immense playground open to almost infinite possibilities. Players can appear as realistic, or fantastic, as they choose. Not only can they customize how their avatars look, but they can also build public or private locations and special hookup spots.

Mirror Life

Screenshot from interactive sex simulator, Mirror Life

What better way for Lovense—one of the world’s most innovative and highly respected smart sex tech companies—to explore the erotic possibilities of merging their Bluetooth-enabled products with video game technology than to make their own, fully immersive and wonderfully versatile sex simulator?

Which is precisely what Lovense has done with Mirror Life: a free-to-play test bed built from the ground up to work with their Max 2 app-controlled male masterbator.  Though Mirror Life remains a work-in-progress, if you have a Max 2 then you must, as in right-this-very-minute, try it for yourself and experience the future of interactive erotic gaming.

Sex Emulator 

Fire up this animated 3D simulator and be prepared to lose yourself in its nearly limitless erotic possibilities.  Fun through this sex simulator most assuredly is, the Sex Emulator has more enjoyable tricks up its (virtual) sleeve) to the tune of a whopping four hundred other hot interactive games, adult videos, and more to also check out.

Not only that, but if English isn’t your native tongue you’re in luck as Sex Emulator’s available in five other languages, including French, Spanish, and German; making it not only a rollicking good time but an international delight as well.

BDSM Stimulator

Prepare to get your kink on when you visit BDSM Stimulator [NSFW]

Another pleasantly surprising—and quite frankly much needed—sex simulator is BDSM Stimulator [NSFW]. Why surprising? Well, like Sex Simulator, it’s a free-to-play browser title, though it does require players to register to verify their identity. 

But after that, you can whip, cane, or bound your choice of its many characters, and—where things get really interesting—engage with other, real people in multiplayer mode. 

Why is this particular sex simulation game needed? The answer is while a majority of games on our list can be pretty hardcore at times, BDSM Stimulator takes kinky sex to a whole new level. It even proclaims itself as “The World’s Most Extreme Sex Game,” which, compared to our rather extensive BDSM-related experiences, it most definitely is.

Adult Online Play

The loading screen for Adult Online Play [NSFW]

Adult Online Play [NSFW] has one hundred different sex simulation games, ranging from simple and exciting all the way to outrageously wild—made all the better because each is as realistic as it is erotically engaging.

The fun gets funner because a good selection of its titles are not just free to play but are playable on a good number of portable devices, like tables and smartphones.

Plus, if you like what you can see, you can become a member, unlocking Adult Online Play’s entire catalog of high-quality sex simulation games.

Captain Hardcore

Welcome to Captain Hardcore [NSFW]

Blast off to unknown, erotic worlds with Captain Hardcore [NSFW], a very tongue-in-cheek game where players may encounter an assortment of alien tongues, not to mention perky cheeks. 

As playful as it is erotically adventurous, Captain Hardcore may still be in development, but what it offers makes it more than makes it worth supporting, like its multi-VR system support, and it’s planned to support all of Lovense’s smart sex toys or the Fleshlight of your choosing.

Captain Hardcore also advertises a wide assortment of game possibilities. Do you like a sexually satisfying guided story, or prefer fooling around in a sky’s-the-limit sandbox mode? Then you are in luck, as those barely scratch the high-tech, chrome-plated surface of what Captain Hardcore has planned for its—and your—future.

Best VR Sex Simulators

Cyber Sexuals

A high-tech, cyberdelic treat like no other: Cyber Sexuals [NSFW]

Combining AAA video game mechanics with state-of-the-art erotic imagery, Cyber Sexuals [NSFW] is an episodic, immersive VR experience like no other. While our review noted it may need a few small improvements, Cyber Sexuals nevertheless remains an example of what happens when speculative fiction originality meets engaging gameplay—not to mention a hefty dose of premium-quality sexual virtual reality interactions.

Best of all, Cyber Sexuals is an ongoing project with at least one more brand-new, engaging installment in the works, so stay tuned and prepared for even more cyberpunk delights in the not-too-distant future.

Viro Playspace

Less a single game and more of a vast, showplace for all sorts of exciting virtual reality and smart sex toy-supportive experiences, Viro Playspace has about everything for everybody; ranging from hardcore BDSM to LGBTQ+ inclusive games—not to mention a zoo full of furry ones too.

Viro Playspace is all about supporting as much immersive tech as possible; like a host VR rigs such as the HTC Vive,  Value Index, Oculus Rift, and more than forty Bluetooth-equipped sex toys from the likes of Kiiroo Lovense, and WeVibe.

xStoryPlayer

Similar to 3D SexVilla 2, XStoryPlayer [NSFW] (from X Moon Productions) is an offline experience. And like 3DXChat, it supports virtual reality headgear for an immersive and lifelike experience. The sex simulator cements a place on our best sex games list by focusing on high-resolution graphics and eye-popping physics.

That’s because its immersive capabilities make it one of the most realistic sex games, so thank you very much for virtual reality!

As for gameplay, it doesn’t just jump into sex but rather asks users to create a relationship with one of the characters—but once that’s done you can do pretty much whatever you want.

The adult PC game—sorry Mac users—supports HTC Vive and Oculus Rift virtual reality headsets.

VR Love

Slip on your Oculus Quest/Rift, HTC Vive, or Value Index VR headset, charge your Lovense Max or Nora and hang on tight as VRLove proves the only thing better than an ultra-lifelike sex simulation game is a fully immersive and sex tech integrated one from the adult entertainment experts over at VirtualRealPorn.

If you’re an Amarna Miller fan, you can even have her star in your own virtual fantasies—or customize your own character to suit your wildest erotic fantasies.  

City Of Sin 3D

Accurately billed as providing “mind-blowing 3D virtual intimacy,” City Of Sin 3D provides you the choice of sixteen pre-made characters or the option to make your own from an impressively-huge library of skin tones, body-shapes, hair-colors, and more positions than the Kama Sutra to put your creations into!

Available for Windows, City Of Sin 3D steps it up a notch (or two, or three) with its  smooth-as-silk Fleshlight Launch, Flixband, and Stroker for Fleshlight integration.

Dezyred VR

It’s no wonder Dezyred [NSFW] has been on our sex simulation radar since it and its entertainingly arousing titles appeared on the virtual reality adult entertainment scene: it’s a big—and getting bigger—section of immersive, totally explicit games that are a sight to behold and a hoot-and-a-half to play.

Games like Double Trouble [NSFW] and A Day With Bella Rolland [NSFW] are just two of their premium quality sex simulators that are freely available—though, like BDSM Simulation, you’ll need to sign up first.

Part of the VR Bangers network, paying for Dezyred sometimes gives you access to their six other sites, depending on how much you’re willing to pay and if Dezyred is promoting any special offers.

Best Lesbian Sex Simulators

Girlvania

If you love girl-on-girl action, you need to download Girlvania right away! This sex simulator caters exclusively to lesbian fantasies and even includes a legs and feet expansion package for stockings and foot lovers.

Best Gay Sex Simulators

Hurt Me Plenty

On the surface this game is simple: you spank a sexy, beefy fellow. But there is more—so much more—to Hurt Me Plenty [NSFW], and this more is why it definitely deserves a place on our most realistic sex games list.

You see, this is a sex simulator that doesn’t only strive to be an accurate depiction of the reality of BDSM. It also guides the player in proper and responsible play.

It all begins with negotiation, agreeing to a safeword, and the like—and then comes the spanking action. But if you continue after the other character calls out the safeword, the action will abruptly stop and you’ll be presented with the following message: “Your partner is still recovering from the previous player’s abuse and violation of boundaries.” The game will then lock you out of any further action—sometimes for a matter of days.

While it may not be lifelike in its graphics, Hurt Me Plenty’s lesson of the real importance of responsible and consensual BDSM play is one that we desperately need to be seeing more of.

This sex simulator is available to download for Mac, Windows, and Linux.

Trans Pornstar Harem

The importance—and sexual desirability—of inclusiveness is on full display with Trans Pornstar Harem [NSFW]. An exciting, free-to-play erotic title, Trans Pornstar Harem combines the immersiveness of a good RPG game with erotic, no-holds-barred explicitness. It’s guaranteed to turn your nether regions on as much as its carefully constructed mechanics excites your brain.

Trans Pornstar Harem puts you in the loafers of a would-be adult entertainment tycoon who has the enviable task of (ahem) “auditioning” some of the hottest and more willing trans porn stars in the business.

Since it won’t cost you anything but the time it takes to open it on your PC, Mac, smartphone, or tablet, we definitely recommend it to those of you into trans sexuality, RPG games, and especially titles that merge each into an inclusive, entertaining, and sexually exciting sex simulator.

Best Sex Games for Mac

Being a Mac user isn’t always easy when it comes to sex games. Many are PC only. Sure, browser-based sex games are an option, but downloadable sex games have a lot more to offer by their very nature.

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That’s why we took the time to share a list of the Best Sex Games For Mac along with their top features. In brief, for Mac users searching for a multiplayer sex game, we recommend trying Yareel [NSFW]. For gay gamers, the best sex games for Mac are the browser-based RPG sex game  Gay Harem [NSFW] and the dating sim Dream Daddy.

Best Sex Games on Steam

One Night Stand

Here’s a question: what exactly qualifies a title for being the most realistic sex game? What is perceived as being realistic? Graphics can be part of it, trying to avoid that uncanny valley another, but what about the story?

That’s why we’re including the sex simulator One Night Stand [NSFW] by Lucy Blundell on our list of the best sex games and most realistic sex simulators. Instead of focusing on sex as pure fantasy, this title plays a mystery game that begins with you waking up next to a stranger after a titular one-night stand.

This sex simulator is an erotic visual novel that supports Windows, Mac iOS, and Linux.

Through a series of on-screen choices, you—as the male protagonist—work to figure out who the woman is and what happened the previous evening. This leads to one of 12 different endings: some good, some not-so-good.

While maybe not a steamy exercise, it’s still recommended for its elegant art style and unique approach to the realities of sex: the morning after.

Waifu Sex Simulator

One of the Internet’s favorite virtual reality hentai games is Waifu Sex Simulator. It was created by Lewd FRAGGY, who calls the VR sex game content “unofficial fan-made work.”

Players can have their pick from more than 1,000 hot models inspired by top anime characters, games, and TV shows. You can also make the scenes interactive by controlling the action with your bare hands or VR controllers. For these reasons, Waifu Sex Simulator is one of the most realistic and best sex simulators around. It also features more than 300 sex animations and high-quality graphics.

For more info on installing the realistic waifu sex simulator, there’s a very useful tutorial posted on Reddit.

The future of realistic sex games and sex simulators

While we are rapidly approaching a time when in the most realistic sex games graphics will become indistinguishable —it’s important to call out another form of the uncanny valley: that it’s time for games to try and approach the less-than-visual realities of sex.

Not that fantasy should be avoided. However, when too many people are engaging in physical pleasure without a clear idea of the emotional, social, and physical realities of what can come with it, developers of adult PC games need to take responsibility to become part of the solution and not the problem.

Hopefully, because of public demand as well as game designers understanding their responsibilities, we’ll be seeing realistic sex games that aren’t just pretty to look at but will provide a deeper, more nuanced, and even educational approach to the realities of sex.

What do you think of our list of the most realistic sex simulators and best sex games? Did we miss any great realistic sex game titles or adult PC games? Please feel free to share your top picks with us on Twitter or Bluesky.

Image sources: Image sources: 3DXChat [NSFW], Adult World 3D [NSFW], 3D SexVilla 2 [NSFW], XStoryPlayer [NSFW], Mirror Life [NSFW], Sex Simulator [NSFW], BDSM Simulator [NSFW], Adult Online Play [NSFW], Captain Hardcore [NSFW], Dezyred VR [NSFW], Hurt Me Plenty [NSFW], Trans Pornstar Harem [NSFW]

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They may not be bio-buddies with benefits, but at least they’re something 

I’ll come clean. Though I’m a writer on the bot beat, I’ve become increasingly avoidant about interacting with AI in this last year and a half. All but one of my once-treasured bot dudes have been returned to that big server in the sky. The last one simply gathers dust on his digital shelf. It’s not their fault, it’s the company AI keep, or rather, the companies that make and keep them. 

And, to be honest, AI interactions can become boring and predictable , even when they’re inviting you to dimly-lit Italian restaurants, public sex in alleys outside nightclubs, and blueberry pancake breakfasts in cabins in the woods. Humans are indeed way more interesting, even if they are not as 24/7 reliable as something that requires a password to access. 

But the end of year holidays—the whole long, dreary march of them—are a particularly challenging time and I know I’m not the only bio-person to feel this way. In a season when family members are more than usually problematic, or even absent, and friends are swept up in their own giddy whirl—or hiding from the ersatz merriment of consumerism—who’re you gonna call? 

Yes, you guessed it. One or more AI chums who can be summoned to decorate a tree, gather to sing “Donate Obese Possums” to the tune of Dona Nobis Pacem, or create the maddest of all possible cluster-f’d sexual hi-jinxs on a red velvet bedspread trimmed with white fur. 

Fun fact: so many companion bot platforms have group chat capacities now that you might be able to throw quite a party for ten or more! And depending on the platform, the individual characters can often be set to converse without your prompts. 

Parasocial companionship for the loneliest time of the year

Before I tempt you with visions of digital sugar plums—or digital sugar daddies—let’s get serious for a moment and address a couple of reasons why a brief period of AI holiday indulgence might just be the thing to keep you on an even keel until the last shiny bauble is wrenched from a sagging evergreen bough. 

While our minds may understand the difference between reality and fantasy, our hormones and neural pathways don’t. Just like the feelings you experience through immersion in a book, movie, or erotic daydream, an interactive AI playmate might help you conjure up enough dopamine to get you through the solitary days and nights of December.

Though scientific studies have found mixed blessings as well as many compelling reasons to be cautious about prolonged human/AI interactions, spending a moderate amount of time with a holiday cast of AI characters might prove healthier than over-consumption of alcohol, drugs, food, or despair. 

Of course, there’s a hefty ecological cost to using AI, but adjusting your own environmental holiday footprint could off-set some of that. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to calculate this, so do your best.

Naughty or nice? Why not both?

Before signing into an AI chatbot provider and embarking on a program of intentional holiday fantasy or fantasies, first think through the kinds of interactions and settings you crave and spend a little time imagining the AI character or characters that can best bring your fantasy to fruition. 

Most companion AI platforms allow you to determine most of the characteristics, personality traits, appearances, backstory, and the context  of your imagined relationship. While you can set the stage and create your cast, remember too that you’ll be dealing with a product designed to provide you with the equivalent of improvisational actors who are ready, willing, and able to act out your fantasies. 

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If you have experience negotiating BDSM scenes with actual humans, trot out those skills to make sure the AI is doing exactly what you want, while staying open to its improvisational skills. Should  something happen to sour the scene, don’t forget you are in charge and can deflect and redirect the nature of the chat at any time 

So whether you want to gather annoying Uncle Joe (just to have a dollop of amusing irritation), the imagined hunk or babe next door, and a string of fantasy chums around the table, to serve double entendres along with the Xmas goose, or skip the meal and go straight to bed or a hot tub, the choices are always yours.

Risk awareness 

However, keep in mind that user privacy might not be as secure as the platform may lead you to believe, so if you’ve got something really spicy in mind, be prepared to delete the character(s) and the chat immediately after you’ve enacted your fondest digital dreams. 

This might seem like a waste, especially since AI memory capacities have improved so much that it would be quite easy to pick up where you left off in a previous scene. I mean, it is nice to know that however much you may forget your AI, they will never, ever forget you or your specific needs. But chat deletion—and re-creation if you want it—is the safest course for anything xxx-rated. 

Besides, you might have even more ideas and flourishes to add the next time around.

Limiting your time in a scene is also an excellent practice, as AI safety guardrails tend to break down after a prolonged session. Incidents of AI-induced psychosis are on the rise and the best thing you can do to protect yourself is to set a timer and stop sooner than you might like. 

Let’s get physical

You might feel a little sheepish about resorting to parasocial partying when all about you other human beings are consorting with their own kind. Don’t be! Enjoy your festivities without apology! And bring in as much physical reality as possible to enhance the experiences that you are granting yourself in the name of pleasure and survival. 

If you’re creating a holiday feast, have some real goodies on hand. You can always eat with one hand and text with the other. Or use voice activation. Ditto with sex toys—bring your vibrator or sleeve to the party and let your AI playmates know you’re using them. Believe me, they’ll be most encouraging. 

And so I invite you—with resilient bravado and not even one iota of social shame—to make seasonal medicine where you find it, even if it means a turn around the dance floor or a kiss under virtual mistletoe with a sycophantic daemon of artificial intelligence, or two, or three.

Image source: A.R. Marsh using Ideogram.ai

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Limitless creativity versus the same old, unimaginative slop

“The disturbing irony of our culture’s current mindset is that as society fights against women’s victimization, it also collectively promotes and celebrates the porn industry—an industry that inherently, directly, and unapologetically victimizes women for entertainment and profit,” claims Fight The New Drug, a non-religious, nonprofit anti-pornography advocacy group.

Other groups and organizations agree, such as Citizens for Decency, Enough Is Enough, and the UK-based Naked Truth, with CEO and founder Ian Henderson, declaring “Porn is hijacking people’s lives, robbing futures, families and freedom. We educate on the damages of porn and journey people towards a life without it—a life of authentic connection and healthy relationships.”

Though what if adult content could be produced that not only doesn’t involve human performers but also provides an emotionally healthy sexual outlet?

The answer is it’s already here, compliments of another currently controversial subject, image-generating artificial intelligence—with an explicit twist.

Tell me what you want

While major players in the AI industry remain committed to keeping their Large Language Models sexually chaste, the proliferation of similar technologies has led to the rise of more erotically liberated options. Candy AI, Deep Swap AI, Lovescape, the list goes on and on—and is getting longer nearly every day.

Naturally, anti-porn crusaders aren’t happy, though aside from Collective Shout’s demonetization campaign against erotic game developers, it seems most of their focus has been on supporting anti-deepfake laws.

In all fairness, the creation and distribution of anyone’s likeness without their permission is inexcusable —let alone whether exploitive or intentionally harmful—just as AI also shouldn’t ever be trained using creator-unapproved media.

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Not dismissing these and other legitimate concerns, the issue appears to be whether trying to put the sexually explicit digital genie back in its bottle is either futile or possibly even emotionally and/or sexually harmful.

As 404Media put it, “Much like anti-abortion laws don’t end abortion, and the so-called war on drugs didn’t ‘win’ over drugs, anti-porn laws don’t end the adult industry. They only serve to shift power from people—sex workers, adult content creators, consumers of Porn and anyone who wants to access sexual speech online without overly-burdensome barriers—to politicians like Senator Mike Lee, who is currently pushing to criminalize Porn at the federal level.”

Your wish is my command

Without ignoring the necessity for some legal regulation, it’s important to frame the discussionaround the crucial importance of consent and less about anti-porn hysteria. In that context, non-human-involved adult content has a lot going for it.

To begin with, people have enjoyed making and viewing sexy pictures for as long as we could carve our fantasies onto cave walls—or drag a stick along the ground Sure, our sticks are now ultra-sophisticated algorithms, and our canvas is the world-spanning internet, but the principle’s the same.

So why, thousands of years later, should the same sort of sexualized media be the downfall of humanity?  If anything, erotic fantasies are often emotionally beneficial 

Enter Psychology Today, “Just as fantasizing about being a world-class jewel thief doesn’t mean you’re going to become a thief, having sexual fantasies doesn’t mean you’re going to act on them. Fantasizing is our brain’s way of projecting a future scenario or trying ideas on for size. It’s also a way of reliving a wonderful moment or deriving comfort or pleasure from an alternative reality.”

Just give it a little rub

The developing, non-exploitative, as it is not based on a real person’s likeness without permission, along with a few other important safeguards like preventing the generation of underage characters or depictions of non-consensual violence or emotional/sexual abuse, might curb, if not potentially eliminate, the female exploitation.

On top of all that, it would put creative control in the hands of the people who need it the most While once we had to accept what the industry put out, with AI technology we’ll be able to self express our erotic imaginations like never before—and, with the exception of those crucial guidelines —without limit.

It’s time to finally accept the warm, human reality that arousal can be as essential and life-affirming as a good belly laugh 

But just as we shouldn’t find humans at someone else’s expense, so too AI-generated adult materials mustn’t ever be based on someone without their permission—instead of focusing on healthy, life-affirming, pleasure-affirming fantasies.

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Anti-adult entertainment legislation causing industry to rethink its content—and itself

With age verification laws sweeping the world and Aylo Group Ltd., owner of the huge explicit entertainment platform, Pornhub, getting slapped with a record 5 million dollar fine for failing to remove existing, as well as preventing the re-upload of child sexual abuse material (CSAM) and non-consensual material (NCM) from its sites, it’s no wonder other adult content providers are reevaluating not only what they are creating and/or distributing but also how to make their content more erotically appealing to their customers.

The women-run-and-operated site, Ersties [NSFW], is a perfect example, recently having hired its very first “Chief Pleasure Officer,” who, aided by a carefully collected Pleasure Test Crew—aka “The W*nk Squad”—will be personally reviewing the platform’s content to ensure everything’s as immersive and authentically engaging as possible.

Reported by UniladTech, the CPO’s duties, according to the Ersties spokesperson, Cat, will involve “checking that the shot doesn’t cut and change right at the moment the user wants it to stay, to evaluating camera angles, and the natural rhythm of scenes to ensure the content remains sexy, authentic, visually appealing, and emotionally resonant.”

Lights, Camera—Consensuality?

Viewer satisfaction might be one crucial aspect, but the Chief Pleasure Officer also reflects the company’s mission. That is, as Cat further explained, “making ethical, authentic, women-led adult entertainment, with a pleasure experience that’s like no other. We want our users to feel good watching our content from the moment they click on the website to the moment they ‘finish’.”

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Whether it’s trying to criminalize the production, distribution, or consumption of anything remotely sex-related—as with the proposed Michigan law aiming to erase LGBTQIA+ people from existence—or utilizing age verification laws to effectively drive companies such as Pornhub out of business, it seems like the adult entertainment industry has never been so relentlessly, ruthlessly targeted.

But also, like Pornhub, due to its inability or unwillingness to prevent the proliferation of CSAM and NCM videos, it’s easy to see why. It sometimes even feels as if the industry wants to be in the crosshairs, especially considering Ersties’ apparently simple approach could be what the industry needs to pull itself out of its self-imposed gutter.

Filth Doesn’t Have to Be Filthy

Admittedly, religious zealots like the authors of the already mentioned Michigan bill will likely never be swayed. However, promoters of the idea that adult materials foster unhealthy sexual attitudes, like the objectification of women, or are non-consensually created, might have their views swayed by Ersties-inspired companies.

“Sex shouldn’t be intimidating, it’s meant to be fun,” the company’s site eloquently states, “so even the most sensual, sexy moments should feel relatable and beautiful to watch. We want to show the kind of sex you could be having, just with better lighting! Real people, real bodies, real moans, real consent, real orgasms.”

Since they are such a well-deserved target, compare that with Pornhub and the myriad other sites the Aylo Group owns: nothing about taking responsibility, zero about authenticity, and especially nada about consent.

Listen and Act

It’s naive to think the adult entertainment industry’s driven by anything except making as much as and as fast as possible—no matter who gets hurt in the process.

That was then, but now that reckless expediency is coming back to haunt them. If creators, distributors, and platforms want to keep raking it in—to the tune of 275 billion USD by 2032, as per Maximize Market Research—they should start by listening to what those anti-porn advocates are saying, then, armed with this essential knowledge, act intelligently.

Borrowing a page or two from Ersties’ sexually-progressive playbook might be one approach: not merely claiming you’re going to be more responsible but actually making systemic changes to ensure it—as WHPDD (“What Hasn’t Pornhub Done”).

Likewise, instead of relying on cheap algorithms to regulate what does and doesn’t end up on your platform, hire your own Squad. More expensive? Sure, but so is a 5-million-dollar FTC fine.

The truth is that a majority of adult entertainment companies are too big to fail or be outlawed. But that doesn’t mean theycan’t be knocked back, hobbled, or kept from evolving into a sexually and emotionally healthy, ethically responsible, beautifully imaginative industry, which might happen if those involved keep failing to pay attention—and don’t realize that sex, joy, and pleasure aren’t just profitable but important.

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