Policymaker promotes pleasure education for a healthier, happier citizenry

As we now know, a progressive member of Britain’s Labor Party, Samantha Niblett MP, recently announced her commitment to improving the sexual health and literacy of all citizens, kicking off an education campaign she—and sexpert Cindy Gallop—call the “Summer of Sex.” To facilitate discussion, Niblett plans to bring sex toys to a session of the House of Commons, assuming there are no security concerns to prevent the brandishing of such objects.

PoliticsHome said Niblett has already reached out to a number of sexperts and sex entrepreneurs, including Lovehoney, an adult products retailer. Lovehoney’s Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys does a great job of introducing various kinds of toys, reasons for using them, and a host of other things a nervous toy newbie might want to know. So if MPs desire to know more beyond MP Niblett’s presentation, they’ve got a ready source of additional information. They might have to look at it from home, though.

Most of the following suggestions are gleaned from recent sex toy reviews published here in Future of Sex.

Lelo Enigma Double Sonic Massager for bodies with clits and vaginas

Thanks to this toy, I have two standard-sized book boxes (12”x12”) filled with toys that I hardly ever touch now. It’s because this versatile and powerful toy does it all, and does it so well!

I deeply appreciated a previous model, Enigma Wave, billed as a “triple-action sonic massager” and sometimes I bring it out again for old times’ sake, but it’s noisier and works somewhat differently than the newer Enigma Double Sonic. Each toy has a “tail” which is inserted into the vagina, as well as a clitoral stimulator that delivers sonic waves to just the right spot—though because all bodies are different, you have to adjust your placement to get it just right. The older model’s tail rotates in a sort of butter churning motion which really does feel good, but the newer model has a thumping pad on the tip of the tail which is designed to stimulate the A-spot, also known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone (AFE), located in “the inner half of the anterior wall of the vagina.” Some people say the AFE is controversial, but I say, there’s something to stimulation in that area which is really quite beyond compare.

Read my review of Lelo Enigma Double Sonic Massager and you’ll agree that it deserves a starring role in any Sex Toy 101 presentation to the British Parliament!

Lovense Gush 2 for bodies with penises

Gush 2 by Lovense is an exquisitely designed penis massager. I mean it! With all it’s many excellent features, this stroker has quickly become the “go to” toy whenever I want to take a semi-flaccid penis and bring it—and the human attached to it—to a state of almost unbearable pleasure.

What’s beautiful about Gush 2 is that it’s designed stimulate penises from soft and wonderfully squishy to hard as a vajra scepter. There are other, similarly designed toys, but Gush 2 is so comfortable to use and easy to handle, even for a partner who’s supplying the motion while you lie back…and enjoy. Take it in your own hands and you’ll see what I mean.

Read my review of Lovense Gush 2 and phrases like “4,300 targeted vibrations and oscillations per minute” and “light, balanced, and ergonomically pleasant” will surely captivate you. And if they don’t, be certain that actually using it will!

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Lelo Soraya Beads for bodies with anuses

The late M. Christian, our beloved managing editor and Future of Sex contributor, wrote a glowing review of Lelo’s Soraya Beads. They called the product “a return to classic anal massagers, yet with more than a few innovative design and engineering choices” and mentioned Lelo’s unique “Bow-Motion technology—which according to its product page was ‘inspired by the masterful movements of violin players’—to activate each of its separately-powered beads in sequence” resulting in what Lelo calls their cascading pleasure design, with eight settings.

Lelo bills Soraya as a “gender-neutral anal beads massager designed for those just getting into anal play exploration.” Let’s hope inclusion of this fine product in a presentation in the House of Commons might spark more than a few discreet orders from MPs who’d like to give this toy a try in the privacy of their own home!

Toys for bodies that need special consideration

There a plethora of sex toys now that cater to mobility and disability concerns, but few are as ingenious as Ohnuts from The Pelvic People.These are stackable rings which slip over a standard vibrators and dildos meant for vaginal (or anal) use, to control depth of penetration. This is so important in situations where there is vaginal pain, or even recent surgery, thus diminishing fear as well as actual risk of going too deep, too soon.

You can even purchase an optional Ohnut Vibrating Ring for additional pleasure.

Read more about the Ohnuts and other disability-friendly sex toys here.

Interactive toys for bodies that want to share

So many sex toys now have Bluetooth connections and companion apps that it’s terribly difficult to choose just one toy to spotlight. So returning to LoveHoney’s site, I sifted through their selection of couple’s toys and have decided to focus on the We-Vibe Sync 2 Purple Remote Control and App Rechargeable Couple’s Vibrator as an example of what’s possible for couple enjoyment.

I haven’t used this toy and can’t review it, so I’ll quote from the product page:

“Ergonomically designed with an adjustable, flexible fit, bend the textured ‘please’ shape to target the clitoris and G-spot during partnered penetration (with a strap-on or penis). Using the single-button control on the toy, the remote control, or the We-Vibe app, explore 10 rumbling vibration modes to deliver hands-free, jaw-dropping stimulation for both of you at exactly the same time.”

Just one disclaimer: not everyone is tech-inclined enough to successfully manage toys with Bluetooth and app-controls, so I wouldn’t recommend this product to a sex-toy newbie. But including a toy in this category could open more than a few MP minds to the almost endless possibilities and consenting-adult pleasures to be found, thanks to the sex-tech/sex toy industries.

Pleasure with a purpose

As a sexologist, I’ve had fun imagining the kind of Sex Toy 101 presentation I’d do if I had the chance to convince a group of policymakers to improve sexual education and health for an entire population, and to convince them to consider pleasure as a key component to quality of life. Not just sexual pleasures, but simple things too, as pleasure is deeply soothing for our nervous systems. If we’re happy, calm, curious, and generous with each other, we can thank the parasympathetic portion of our nervous systems.

I can see the informed pursuit of consent-based pleasure as a vital path to becoming more enjoyable, less reactive and violent, individuals and humanity. If policymakers begin to actively support this idea, it will be a better world and a better future for all of us, indeed.

Image Source: A.Marsh using Ideogram.ai and VistaCreate using product images from Lelo, We-Vibe, OhNut, and Lovense.

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Can you handle 4,300 targeted vibrations and oscillations per minute?

Upon unboxing Lovense’s Gush 2, the first thing I noticed is how light, balanced, and ergonomically pleasant it felt to hold, in comparison with other similar toys. That’s important to me, as my hands are small and I’m always the one to hold and stroke with these types of toys in order to control the pleasure experienced by my penis-endowed partner.

This toy is so easy to use and enjoy! It wrap around a penis with flexible flaps so insertion is easy and possible at any stage of tumescence. Imagine a vibrating taco shape wrapped around a vegan hot dog and you’ll get the idea. Though trust me, Gush 2 is a lot more fun.

Gush 2’s asymmetric flaps are flexible and comfortable. Optional adjustable bands can also convert it from a hand-held stroker to a hands-free toy. In partner play, this means I can now use my hands to do other things too, or have my partner do other things to me, all while they are strapped in and succumbing to the powerful oscillations and vibrations of Gush.

Gush 2 also has a soft, chamois-like feel, inside and out, that is quite different from the hard plastic exterior of another of my favorites, Pulse Dragon Eye by Hot Octopuss. That’s because Gush 2 is made with 100% pure, body-safe silicone.

“It all happened so fast”

After our first time with Gush 2, my partner mentioned their quick response to the toy and then said how much they liked the greater flexibility of the folds and the softer texture, compared to Pulse, our previous, favorite “go to” toy, which is heavier and has thicker, less flexible flaps. I got the distinct impression my partner would rather experience Gush from now on.

The Pulse line is a fine group of toys, so I’m not throwing shade, however I can’t help but notice similarities as well as some key differences between Gush 2 and Pulse. Both have a similar purpose: stimulation that doesn’t rely on degree of erection. They each have a lining of inner ridges in addition a circular vibration center positioned to stimulate the frenulum—a particularly sensitive area—as well as the shaft and head.

However, the ridges that line Gush 2 are thinner and more numerous than those in the Pulse toys, which are thicker. This made me wonder if the combination of powerful 4,300 per minute oscillations and vibrations and a subtler inner surface are more pleasurable than they would be with thicker, harder ridges? Excuse me while I go check!

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Gushing out of the box

The Gush 2 comes with a magnetic charging cord, two flexible bands that can secure it in place for hands-free use, and an instruction booklet with a slightly larger typeface than most. You may also use the QR code printed on the booklet to access free apps that sync with Gush 2.

Gush 2 is quiet and easy to control, with just one button to power on and off by pressing it for three seconds. A tap to this same button will enable you to cycle through seven kinds of pre-programed vibrations and oscillations (the original Gush did not oscillate).

If you’re curious about the power of the Gush 2 but don’t have a penis yourself, I recommend inserting a couple of fingers inside it after turning it on, or holding its base against the palm of your hands, so you can feel each of these settings yourself. No wonder this toy could easily become anyone’s favorite stroker!

The toy has a 1 year warranty, and can pair with the following Lovense products for both remote and in-person play:

Edge 2 prostate massager;
Diamo cock ring;
Lush 4 g-spot vibrator.

You can use it with the Lovense Remote app to sync with it games and music (there’s a sound activation feature), and the Vibe Mate app will enable you to sync Gush 2 with interactive video content. The Remote app also gives you access to more customized oscillations and vibrations.

Gush 2 is fully waterproof (IPX7 rating) for easy cleaning and use in shower or tub. It weighs 195 grams. Charging for 75 minutes gives you 110 minutes of play. Use it only with water based lube. Lovense of course recommends its own brand.

Just one downside

I made the mistake of trying to fasten the optional straps around Gush 2, after applying lube to the toy. This made using the straps impossibly slippery and it was hard to get the small pegs to fit into the stretchy holes of the straps. If you are going to use the straps, put everything in place first, then drizzle lube into the toy’s interior and onto the penis.

Other than that, everything was easy. In fact, the toy’s product page even tells you how to gauge how tightly you’ll fit the straps, depending on penis girth. So I give this toy high marks for customer support. Lovense appears to have thought of everything.

High marks for ease of edging and stamina training

Yes, you can get fast results with Gush 2, if speed is what you crave, but a lot of reviewers on the product webpage praise it for hours of edging and stamina training enjoyment.

Speaking of reviews, one user said Gush is great for “discreet public play” with his wife. Though the toy is relatively compact I have a hard time seeing how it can be worn discreetly, unless one wears a trench coat, inflatable costume, or sits in a car.

Another user said “it made a boring trip to see parents for the holidays really fun and exciting.” Pass the cranberry sauce, indeed!

Another said, “Its fun to use for solo sessions but letting someone else control is amazing!” As I mentioned earlier, the toy’s ergonomic design makes this much easier for the person doing in-person toy topping.

Finally, Gush 2 is reasonably priced as well as well-designed and exceptionally pleasurable. I give it a five stars!

Image Source: Lovense product photos and A.R. Marsh using Ideogram.ai

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Lay back and let an artificial intelligence show you a good time

Lovense is a teledildonics leader popular with remote sex enthusiasts and webcam performers. ChatGPT barely needs an introduction: it’s still the industry leader in AI language modeling and has stirred equal amounts of fascination and concern.

What happens when the two are combined?

The answer is the Advanced Lovense ChatGPT Pleasure Companion, that’s what. Integrated into the Lovense Remote App, it uses ChatGPT to generate personalized sexual experiences. 

As Lovense says, “This exciting new feature allows you to create your own erotic stories and spicy episodes in mere seconds. You decide what type of story you want—romantic or sensual, juicy or spicy.”

Prompting an AI is much more than just giving it a sentence or two. The Companion will even allow users to dictate pace, setting, and characters for their unique story. This is topped off with text-to-speech integration for story playback, and even a feature to generate personalized vibration patterns on connected Lovense devices.

Changing the chatbot game

This collaboration is a bit surprising because it’s a step away from ChatGPT’s current restrictions on NSFW content. ChatGPT’s safeguards have been continuously updated and there is a historical pattern of keeping sexual content away from AI.

Openly collaborating with a sex toy giant is unexpected, but it makes a lot of sense upon examination. The purpose of AI safeguards is not necessarily to censor, but to prevent unrestricted use of powerful technology. 

This collaboration is the opposite of people’s fears: restricted and sanctioned. Limiting access to the NSFW ChatGPT to Lovense clients increases the likelihood that only consenting adults use it. Developing the Pleasure Companion with a focus on one line of products also acts as a pilot programme for AI-mediated sexuality that can be carefully controlled and monitored.

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Despite going against the grain, this collaboration has the potential to be the midpoint between a strict no porn allowed policy, and unrestricted pornographic AI. We can expect interesting developments and lots of information about the developing landscape of AI and sexuality.

A spark for AI-mediated sexuality?

The Lovense ChatGPT Pleasure Companion marks a major turning point in AI-guided self pleasuring. It represents a tentative step into the hotly-demanded, profitable, and risky world of adult entertainment. A successful launch could pave the way for more acceptance of AI-mediated sexuality. 

The possibilities that AI has for human sexuality are as limitless as sex itself. We can learn about how AI can augment our sexual experiences: what do people want out of AI-supported sex? Where should we set our boundaries and safeguards? What are the benefits of personalized sexual experiences to the end user? There is excitement and trepidation in equal measure as the Lovense Companion moves toward release. 

This technology moves us closer to a personalized AI assistant that whispers sweet nothings into our ears during play. The Companion arrives with text-to-speech, but how long before that technology evolves to encompass different accents and genders? What of the inevitable social media-sharing aspect that comes with all tech? Will I be able to peruse other people’s fantasy worlds and play them back like browsing an album of Midjourney creations?

Lovense’s promise of personalized masturbation and erotica might sound like something out of a cyberpunk wet dream but, if all goes well, it may be right around the corner. Most of all, I wish I had Lovense’s Companion during my previous attempt at AI-mediated pleasure.

Image Sources: Lovense, Trong Khiem Nguyen

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