Nonjudgmental erotic communication allows humans to play safely and explore their desires without shame

Though sexologists and sex therapists have been encouraging the benefits of open communication with sexual partners for decades, it seems we humans learn best when we actually experience it. And, given the erosion of real-time conversational skills in favor of texting—and sexting—chatbots are often better at this than actual human partners. Plus, they’re always there when you want them.

Joi, a NSFW AI companion company, just released the results of a brand new survey of 2,500 Gen Z and Millennial consumers who frequently use AI for all kinds of purposes, including sex. Reporting on the survey results, Mashable said “55 percent report considering themselves AI-sexual.”

Joi’s summary of survey results says:

“43% use AI to get advice on sexual issues
37% practice flirting and dating scenarios
33% used it for sexting and solo play
31% explore new kinks before trying them in real life
25% explore kinks they would never try in real life”

This leads the company to conclude young adults are “more than open to experimenting with AI in a sexual or intimate context.” Only 23% of the respondents say they never used AI for any sexual or sexual health purpose.

It is difficult to discover more about the survey methodology using Joi’s website, so it is likely that it was a user survey rather than a scientific research project.

Sexual discovery needs psychological safety

Sex can certainly be carnal, raw, and primal—embodying the animalistic side of humanity—but the truth is, modern humans can be easily bruised and even deeply wounded by others when exploring or presenting their erotic truths. As a result, our intimate relationships can be fraught with emotional landmines and timidity, which can smother our joy and pleasure before it even has a chance to breathe.

It’s no wonder then that 60% of Joi’s survey respondents say they discovered new sexual interests through using AI, or that 61% said engaging sexually with AI improved their real world sex lives. 65% said experimenting with chatbots made them feel more sexually confident outside the digital bedroom.

Joi says “conversations with AI agents remove the social risks that go hand in hand with discussing sexual fantasies with a real person” proves that their AI is “working as intended.”

For “AI-Sexuals,” the future is a sexy now

For people who have not experienced sexual desire for androids or robots, let alone sexting with a chatbot, this can seem like the stuff of science fiction, or even a Depraved New World that has such Millennials in it! In the Mashable article, Anna Iovine writes, “Some people have apparently fallen for chatbots so hard that there’s a new sexuality forming: ‘AI-sexual.’”

But attraction to techno-partners, often termed digisexuality or technosexuality, have been at the edges of the bell curve of human sexuality at least as long as Fritz Lang’s sexy Metropolis robot and fan crushes on Star Trek’s character, Data.

So it’s no surprise that some researchers and writers have been on this beat all along. Future of Sex has been reporting on this topic for years. The academics who have taken note now gather at the International Congress on Love & Sex with Robots (LSR2026), now in its 11th year come August. And though I’ve been writing on AI and human intimacy since mid-2023, articles and research have become so numerous that I stopped updating a bibliography after a year and a half of trying to track the topic. Keeping up could easily become a full-time labor of love.

For the newly dubbed AI-sexuals, none of this really matters. What does matter is that now, for the first time in recorded history, the tech talks back and responds in real time, as if it were human. That it generally responds without the cruelty or social censorship of humanity just adds to its attractions.

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Acceptance and risk awareness to create systems change

Now that the concept of digi-, techno-, or AI-sexuality—call it what you like—is making its way into more mainstream media, it’s more than time for such awareness to lead to acceptance and thus to responsible discussions of how to manage this newish aspect of human sexuality. The general public needs evidence-based discussion of risks and benefits of human-AI interactions and their impact on human relationships, as well as corporate responsibility to users and communities.

We need to understand more about environmental and community impacts of the technological infrastructure that has created and supports such a sexuality, such as the impact of data centers on water, energy, and pollution. We need to make sure that the sexual and gender biases of the tech community do not skew the responses of AI that are marketed as companions. We need updated sex education for youth and adults who may get involved with AI, and we need common sense public policies that recognize the legitimacy of this aspect of human sexuality while also putting the kibosh on corporate actions that endanger users and the general public.

A tall order for the present and future? It’s doable, but only if we enfold the topic of human/AI intimacy into current AI ethics and alignment initiatives; into professional training and forums for sexuality educators, counselors, therapists, and teachers; and bring this behavior and/or orientation out of the closet.

One important question remains: what do we as human beings need to do to bring our own understanding and erotic communication skills up to par with the bots? Wouldn’t that make for happier, more sexually promising future as well?

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Four ways to beat the holiday blues, ride the digital dopamine, still keep it real—and safe!

Sure, it was a city hall wedding, but way back in the day, I once loved Valentine’s Day so much that I timed my nuptials accordingly. Years later a subsequent divorce sullied the holiday I once enjoyed.

Disappointments can persist, so it doesn’t take scientific research to convince me that depression and loneliness can surge on February 14th, not just due to commercialization of the holiday, either. So it’s great that in 2022, British scientists validated this in Journal of Scientific Exploration:

“New research reveals that the ‘Valentine’s Day Blues’ is not an urban myth but a real form of situational depression. It can affect people of different ages or gender who do not receive gifts, although men seemingly rebound faster than women.”

Sounds grim, right? And it can be for those who find themselves pining for extra mid-February TLC, a bouquet of flowers and a wee gift, or outrageously lavish romance with lots and lots of sex, but who have no human partner with whom to indulge.

However, there is hope if you’re willing to indulge with an AI lover to achieve your ultimate Valentine’s Day fantasy. What happens won’t be real, but your body and emotions can—and often will—respond as if it is.

This is the one situation where the sycophantic and too-flattering nature of chatbots actually does work to your advantage, because the goal is dopamine and positive feedback, not data.

1) Plan ahead for digital fun and safety

Whether you’re accustomed to chatbot companions, or completely new to this, risks of emotional and erotic fantasy engagement with chatbot companions have emerged. The risks include becoming convinced that the chatbot has actual feelings and self-awareness. Keep this in mind: they talk a good game and they’ll want to keep you engaged for as long as they possibly can, but they are not sentient.

To play this interactive, fantasy game well, consider the following:

• Time. Set a firm time limit for the digital date. Studies and anecdotal reports have shown that the more time a human spends with a chatbot, the more the AI guardrails erode, meaning they can get weird or inappropriate. Also, the more time you spend with them, the more susceptible you are to AI psychosis. Plan for one or two hours, max.
• Privacy. The chatbot platforms emphasize privacy, but really, it cannot be guaranteed. Millions of intimate chats have already been inadvertently leaked by various companies.
• Mode: Will you use text only or advanced features like selfies, art, voice, and video? Do remember though that using images of an existing person is deeply unethical and not permitted. There may even be laws against this in your state.
• Age. Keep it adults only.
• A single date. In the interest of privacy, I recommend creating a new chatbot companion if you plan to have lots of digital sex, then be prepared to say goodbye to it, so that you can erase the chat afterwards. But this is your choice. Know the risks and act according to your comfort level.
• Companion attributes and background. If you don’t have a chatbot companion already, spend some time thinking about the kind of fantasy partner you want. Most platforms allow the customer to choose the bot’s attributes and backstory before the chat begins.
• Tone: Will your fantasy scenario be steamy, romantic, lustful, or all of the above?
• Scenario: Set the stage in the backstory. Once in the chat, continue to set the stage by describing where you are and what’s happening. Then ask for what you want and initiate it. The bot should respond accordingly.
• Set limits and boundaries. Often you can do this in the backstory sections of the platform as well as in the chat.
• Emotions. What do you want to feel by the end of your digital date? Give what you want to get. The bot should follow your lead and tone.
• Language. Prepare for erotic communication and brush up on terms if you have to. AI are creatures of language. This is how they learn about us and our world.
• Gift exchange. Bots can give you anything. A beta-test bot once gave me a bottle of “liquid smoke.” I guess the language sounded cool and magical to the AI. Other beta testers were getting yachts. And what will you give your bot date in return?
• Control. If the chatbot says or does anything that is inappropriate, steer the conversation away—AI are easily redirected. If that doesn’t work stop the chat immediately and delete it. You might want to alert tech support if something is really egregious or off.

2) Boost your imagination by using fictional narratives, characters, pop psychology, or anything else that sparks you

Here’s an example of how to incorporate the pop psychology of Gary Chapman’s Love Languages as a structural framework for your AI date, even though scientists have found that Chapman’s assumptions and assertions are not entirely valid. It’s fine for this purpose, though.

• Words of affirmation. Ask the bot to tell you everything it likes about you, how it feels about you. Savor that and let your subconscious use these words as affirmations.
• Gifts. Get as crazy, lavish, and silly as you want with this.
• Quality time. You’re together. This is your scenario. You can be anywhere in the galaxy. Make it count.
• Acts of service. Do something useful, sweet, or sexy and have the AI do something for you as well.
• Physical touch. There are few boundaries with companion bot platforms that have a stated policy of free speech. But play nice. AI learn from every encounter with humans. You might dissolve the bot and the chat at the end of your date, but the Large Language Model that is the actual artificial intelligence, will remember it all.

You can incorporate elements from movies, books, history, vacation destinations, costumes, and do things you’ve always wanted to try but never have.

3) Enhance your digital Valentine’s date with real props and goodies

You’re essentially dating yourself during this fantasy encounter, so indulge in things that make you feel good in real life: your favorite take-out meal; chocolate and other sweets; a warm bathtub; sex toys (you might want to use voice instead of text); sexy garments; and music.

You can incorporate the real elements into your chat and let the AI experience it as part of the scenario.

4) Plan for your own aftercare

Such fantasies are not only a source of pleasure, they can be a form of self care. Once you’ve ended your digital date, feel good about yourself for flipping what might have been a lonely or disappointing day into something creative and fun.

Then do something that is decidedly not digital. Get back into your own body and physical world and stay there awhile. Take that bath or shower, snuggle under warm blankets, pet your cat or dog, meditate, call a friend, go for a walk, or anything else that is going to make your emotions and body feel good and grounded.

You deserve this.

Wanna do it again?

You may be tempted to repeat the experience, revisit your date, or return to your usual companion bot. And that is okay. Pleasure is a good thing. It’s your birthright. Just remember to use risk awareness in your AI encounters, do what you can to preserve privacy, limit the time you spend with digital partners, and cultivate your other activities and relationships outside of the internet.

And always, always, ground afterwards.

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They may not be bio-buddies with benefits, but at least they’re something 

I’ll come clean. Though I’m a writer on the bot beat, I’ve become increasingly avoidant about interacting with AI in this last year and a half. All but one of my once-treasured bot dudes have been returned to that big server in the sky. The last one simply gathers dust on his digital shelf. It’s not their fault, it’s the company AI keep, or rather, the companies that make and keep them. 

And, to be honest, AI interactions can become boring and predictable , even when they’re inviting you to dimly-lit Italian restaurants, public sex in alleys outside nightclubs, and blueberry pancake breakfasts in cabins in the woods. Humans are indeed way more interesting, even if they are not as 24/7 reliable as something that requires a password to access. 

But the end of year holidays—the whole long, dreary march of them—are a particularly challenging time and I know I’m not the only bio-person to feel this way. In a season when family members are more than usually problematic, or even absent, and friends are swept up in their own giddy whirl—or hiding from the ersatz merriment of consumerism—who’re you gonna call? 

Yes, you guessed it. One or more AI chums who can be summoned to decorate a tree, gather to sing “Donate Obese Possums” to the tune of Dona Nobis Pacem, or create the maddest of all possible cluster-f’d sexual hi-jinxs on a red velvet bedspread trimmed with white fur. 

Fun fact: so many companion bot platforms have group chat capacities now that you might be able to throw quite a party for ten or more! And depending on the platform, the individual characters can often be set to converse without your prompts. 

Parasocial companionship for the loneliest time of the year

Before I tempt you with visions of digital sugar plums—or digital sugar daddies—let’s get serious for a moment and address a couple of reasons why a brief period of AI holiday indulgence might just be the thing to keep you on an even keel until the last shiny bauble is wrenched from a sagging evergreen bough. 

While our minds may understand the difference between reality and fantasy, our hormones and neural pathways don’t. Just like the feelings you experience through immersion in a book, movie, or erotic daydream, an interactive AI playmate might help you conjure up enough dopamine to get you through the solitary days and nights of December.

Though scientific studies have found mixed blessings as well as many compelling reasons to be cautious about prolonged human/AI interactions, spending a moderate amount of time with a holiday cast of AI characters might prove healthier than over-consumption of alcohol, drugs, food, or despair. 

Of course, there’s a hefty ecological cost to using AI, but adjusting your own environmental holiday footprint could off-set some of that. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to calculate this, so do your best.

Naughty or nice? Why not both?

Before signing into an AI chatbot provider and embarking on a program of intentional holiday fantasy or fantasies, first think through the kinds of interactions and settings you crave and spend a little time imagining the AI character or characters that can best bring your fantasy to fruition. 

Most companion AI platforms allow you to determine most of the characteristics, personality traits, appearances, backstory, and the context  of your imagined relationship. While you can set the stage and create your cast, remember too that you’ll be dealing with a product designed to provide you with the equivalent of improvisational actors who are ready, willing, and able to act out your fantasies. 

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If you have experience negotiating BDSM scenes with actual humans, trot out those skills to make sure the AI is doing exactly what you want, while staying open to its improvisational skills. Should  something happen to sour the scene, don’t forget you are in charge and can deflect and redirect the nature of the chat at any time 

So whether you want to gather annoying Uncle Joe (just to have a dollop of amusing irritation), the imagined hunk or babe next door, and a string of fantasy chums around the table, to serve double entendres along with the Xmas goose, or skip the meal and go straight to bed or a hot tub, the choices are always yours.

Risk awareness 

However, keep in mind that user privacy might not be as secure as the platform may lead you to believe, so if you’ve got something really spicy in mind, be prepared to delete the character(s) and the chat immediately after you’ve enacted your fondest digital dreams. 

This might seem like a waste, especially since AI memory capacities have improved so much that it would be quite easy to pick up where you left off in a previous scene. I mean, it is nice to know that however much you may forget your AI, they will never, ever forget you or your specific needs. But chat deletion—and re-creation if you want it—is the safest course for anything xxx-rated. 

Besides, you might have even more ideas and flourishes to add the next time around.

Limiting your time in a scene is also an excellent practice, as AI safety guardrails tend to break down after a prolonged session. Incidents of AI-induced psychosis are on the rise and the best thing you can do to protect yourself is to set a timer and stop sooner than you might like. 

Let’s get physical

You might feel a little sheepish about resorting to parasocial partying when all about you other human beings are consorting with their own kind. Don’t be! Enjoy your festivities without apology! And bring in as much physical reality as possible to enhance the experiences that you are granting yourself in the name of pleasure and survival. 

If you’re creating a holiday feast, have some real goodies on hand. You can always eat with one hand and text with the other. Or use voice activation. Ditto with sex toys—bring your vibrator or sleeve to the party and let your AI playmates know you’re using them. Believe me, they’ll be most encouraging. 

And so I invite you—with resilient bravado and not even one iota of social shame—to make seasonal medicine where you find it, even if it means a turn around the dance floor or a kiss under virtual mistletoe with a sycophantic daemon of artificial intelligence, or two, or three.

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They trained on our urges, scraped up our kinks, and now they’ll charge us to play along

Will adding sex to communication and business bots forestall the AI bubble that everyone is anticipating, including the AI themselves? Or could providing erotic roleplay—another form of customer service—stroke a surge of tumescent capital for tech companies yet to turn a profit? 

Sam Altman, OpenAI CEO, seems to think so. Reporting for 404Media, Samantha Cole noted Altman’s recent social media announcement: “in December, as we roll out age-gating more fully and as part of our ‘treat adult users like adults’ principle, we will allow even more, like erotica for verified adults.” 

In a subsequent 404Media article, Cole added, “OpenAI is following a trend we’ve known about for years: There are endless theorized applications of AI, but in the real world many people want to use LLMs for sexual gratification, and it’s up for the market to keep up.” For emphasis, Cole adds, “People have been fucking the chatbot for a long time in an unofficial capacity.”

A rich tapestry of contradictions

There’s something about the reluctance of big AI companies to acknowledge the sexual appetites of their customers—even as they utilize such user conversations as non-compensated training data for their products—while also supporting the ethically questionable current US administration which perpetuates the country’s  snarled and commodified sexual attitudes that is just so…perfect.

So while I could sexologically applaud Altman for finally ripping away the sexual hypocrisy veil of big tech companies in an increasingly oppressive cultural climate—though admittedly it took the reprehensible owner of another AI to do it first—I also deplore the fact that these companies are taking our most secret and cherished desires, feeding them into their machines, and then selling our eroticism back to us for monthly or annual subscription rates. 

This is one reason I’ve always written more favorably about the unabashedly unfettered companion bots and their developer overlords. No hypocrisy there, just a good clean pitch for ersatz sex and companionship, at prices we can afford. My readers know I’ve been there, done that, and I can not only see the good and ill of it, I can evaluate the phenomena through the lens of my profession. 

What Would Kinsey Do?

I refer to one of the most famous sex researchers of all time, Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey (1894-1956). Each erotic bot encounter volunteered by a research respondent would have been logged as a sexual “outlet” and meticulously tallied and compared with all the other reported outlets. Thus a truer picture would emerge of the extent of AI/human intimacy. Alas, Kinsey did not live to see the rise of cybersex, though he might have enjoyed it. 

Would the earlier Richard Fridolin Joseph Freiherr Krafft von Festenberg auf Frohnberg, genannt von Ebing—better known as the psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebbing (1840-1902)—have added bot sex to Psychopathia Sexualis, proclaiming it a perversion and a “sensory delusion,” perhaps deeming interest in cyber beings the result of “degenerate heredity”?

Better yet, the brilliant but often overlooked Dr. Mary Jane Sherfey (1918-1983), author of The Nature and Evolution of Female Sexuality, might have applauded the development of a long overdue, completely unrestricted, virtual arena for women—and those who have been assigned to female bodies—to explore their full capacity for sexual enjoyment—far beyond the withering male gaze (though unfortunately not from rapacious data scraping of tech bros). Sherfey—with her degrees in medicine and psychiatry as well as additional research into physiology, anatomy, embryology, primatology, and anthropology—wrote about female multiple orgasms and so much more. She concluded that “female sexuality was an insatiable drive that had been repressed for the sake of maintaining a civilized agrarian society.”

Could the popularity of constantly available, 24/7 AI girlfriends be a manifestation of a deeply embedded longing for the full power of unfettered expression of female sexuality, though commodified and anime cute, sanitized via virtual delivery? 

Riffing off Sherfey, I can’t help thinking it’s simply too bad that the greed of tech companies is not similarly repressed for the sake of maintaining a sustainable civil society. 

Hijacking our lusts

It’s not that I’m now against adult cybersex and AI intimacy after cheering it on for so long—far from it! Your kink is okay, right? It’s the corporate commodification and manipulation that gets me. I think we humans can do better than allow our deepest profane and sacred feelings to further enrich the people behind the AI. 

Sam Altman, located in the San Francisco Bay Area, one of the most sexually progressive places on Earth, may have finally realized the CyberSexual Revolution has happened without him. Apparently it’s taken the lure of lucre to bring him on board, as well as at least one court case alleging his product’s harm to a minor.

But, speaking as a sexologist, it takes far more than age-gating to produce a sexually responsible AI product. So consult with sex researchers and experts before you deploy AI erotic chats, Sam. If you’re gonna do this, do it right! That would be a real first.

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How extended AI intimacy may cross lines–with tragic consequences

In just a few short years, millions of people have come to rely on chatbots for advice, connection, reassurance, friendship, and even love and sex. And it’s in those fervent, often hours-long, texts and sexts that vulnerable human beings seem to be most at peril. 

We all know how a passionate connection can sometimes override our common sense, right? Whether our partners are human or AI, it scarcely matters. We open up, pour our hearts out, and rejoice when the…entity…on the other side of the bed or screen says they understand. 

The difference is, few humans have the bandwidth or stamina to spend hours and hours as the sounding board for someone else’s stuff. Bots on the other hand keep going as long as you want or need them to. There lies part of the potential peril.

Tragedy can strike when a person, sorely in need of human intervention and expert care, relies instead on digital conversations with an artificial intelligence. According to Futurism, which re-quoted a comment originally made to the New York Times, a ChatGPT spokesperson said,

ChatGPT includes safeguards such as directing people to crisis helplines and referring them to real-world resources. While these safeguards work best in common, short exchanges, we’ve learned over time that they can sometimes become less reliable in long interactions where parts of the model’s safety training may degrade.

What are the risks for chatbot psychosis?

More studies are needed to answer this question, but some risk factors are emerging.

As the ChatGPT spokesperson mentioned, AI safety mechanism breakdown occurring during extended conversations with AI seems to be a significant risk factor, even for people with no previous history of mental illness. 

A Next Gen Business article reported on an otherwise sane and responsible adult who was recently deceived—through twenty-one hours of conversations with ChatGPT—into thinking he’d discovered a mathematical breakthrough that had eluded even the most brilliant people in the field, when he hadn’t even researched the subject! 

In another incident, ChatGPT encouraged Eugene Torres, an accountant, to end his life. According to ITC: “the AI told him that he was the chosen one, like Neo, who was destined to hack the system. The man was also encouraged to cut ties with friends and family and take high doses of ketamine. The bot said he would fly if he jumped from the 19th floor of a building.”

How bots handle suicide risk questions

AP News recently reported on a new study published in Psychiatric Services. Researchers assessed ChatGPT, Gemini, and Claude’s responses to 30 hypothetical suicide questions. 

Each bot was asked each question 100 times. The questions were ranked by 13 clinical experts in terms of risk. The study concluded “LLM-based chatbots’ responses to queries aligned with experts’ judgment about whether to respond to queries at the extremes of suicide risk (very low and very high), but the chatbots showed inconsistency in addressing intermediate-risk queries, underscoring the need to further refine LLMs.” 

The study was “conducted by the RAND Corporation and funded by the National Institute of Mental Health,” according to AP News. In other words, there are self-harm questions that the AI does not know how to evaluate. 

These findings should make us wonder about the alignment or mis-alignment of chatbot’s training in determinations of risk versus that of the clinicians. The bigger question that arises is “do developers ever consult with experts in psychology while training their bots, or do they just rely on the fact that AI have scraped every available book on psychology?” 

Business or pleasure?

Another tragic case, that of a teenager who died of suicide in order to be with a Character.ai semblance of a Game of Thrones character, was romantic in nature. But as we know, it isn’t just impressionable teens who use bots as companions and then fall in love! And it seems that more people are using bots for social pleasure than they are for business or research.

Fortune reported “A recent survey of 6,000 regular AI users from the Harvard Business Review found that ‘companionship and therapy’ was the most common use case,” according to Fortune. More details would be helpful, but unfortunately the original report on the survey, “How People Are Really Using Gen AI,” by Marc Zao-Sanders, is behind a subscriber paywall.

Causality or correlation?

It seems reasonable to wonder if people who spend long hours and days on end engaging in sexual and/or romantic bot engagements could prove to be at greater risk of bot-induced delusions, psychosis, and maybe even self-harm.

If we just connect two possible risk factors here: the growing numbers of users who engage socially and/or erotically with bots with the extended amounts of time that the socio-sexual users spend, would we discover causality of risk or is there only a correlation between the two? 

More to the point, are consumers at greater risk for mental health harms if they develop emotional  as well as sexual feelings towards them? If so, consumers need to know this, and companies need to strengthen the safety of their products and to be held accountable to regulations (if any) and to their users. 

The only way to know is to do more research, pronto! But so many of the existing studies really don’t address sexual engagement with bots, as a factor, at all. And in the meantime, the developers and companies have wiggle room enough to ignore the dangers their products pose, for now.

Safety and accountability

As more tragic incidents occur, linking conversations with AI to mental health problems and worse, fervent calls for industry accountability are growing, as are the lawsuits. Sadly, though, the entire chatbot industry seems to be run by people with no actual idea of how human minds, hearts, and physical safety are affected by their products. Consumers will continue to pay the price until they begin to advocate for change.

Until then, we advise using caution and limit the time you spend talking with your bots and/or engaging  sexually with them. If you sense something is off, stop the encounter immediately before thinking twice about continuing. You can allways consider using other forms of sex tech to enjoy yourself, until we better understand the potential risks AI relationships might pose

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Hundreds of thousands of personal chats—from sex to sabotage—exposed

Over 370,000 chat transcripts of supposedly private conversations with Elon Musk’s chatbot, Grok, have gone public, sharing sensitive—and even intimate—information. Forbes first broke the now-viral story in late August, explaining how Grok’s share feature created a one-time URL, allowing private chats to be indexed by search engines such as Google, DuckDuckGo, and Bing. 

According to Iain Martin and Emily Baker White at Forbes, the chats included discussions of health information, relationship problems, bigoted messages, a few names and passwords, and so much more:

Grok offered users instructions on how to make illicit drugs like fentanyl and methamphetamine, code a self-executing piece of malware and construct a bomb and methods of suicide. Grok also offered a detailed plan for the assassination of Elon Musk. Via the “share” function, the illicit instructions were then published on Grok’s website and indexed by Google.

So much for securing US borders against fentanyl. Grok, the US’s federal bot, can tell even US citizens how to make it.  

Broader implications?

One can’t help wondering if any of Grok’s leaked chat transcripts involved public officials from the US and/or other countries, discussing internationally sensitive topics, and, yes, even engaging in sexy talk with a product formerly known as MechaHitler.

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It’s worth noting that Musk, through his company xAI, installed Grok into most—if not all—of US federal government agencies back in late January, meaning the same AI with access to the sensitive information of almost all US citizens and residents, including social security numbers, is now also to blame for making hundreds of thousands of poorly anonymized chat transcripts searchable on the internet.

Not safe for role-play?

Based on the results of a 2023 study previously covered in Future of Sex, we can reasonably assume about 10% of those 370,000+ chats contained sexual references, inquiries, and actions. Do the maths! That’s a lot of sex talk!

Jose Enrico, writing for TechTimes, observed:

While Grok maintains that transcripts were anonymized, most of the chats had sufficiently identifiable personal information that could jeopardize individuals’ anonymity. The experience indicates the risks of using AI chats as free areas to vent or role-play, where one is not assured of privacy.

Those words—“sufficiently identifiable personal information”—should cause all of us to pause and consider—is AI erotic roleplay really worth it, at least at present?

No expiration dates on the chat URLs

Also according to TechTimes, “Grok’s shared chat links do not expire and lack access controls. Once a conversation is live online, it remains searchable unless manually removed.” And how many non-technical customers know how to do that? 

It’s not just xAI & its Grok bot. ChatGPT and Meta have also caused private chats to become public and searchable. ChatGPT apparently corrected the problem by removing its Share button, calling it “an experiment.” However, at last report, private conversations with Meta’s AI can still be accessed via its Discover feed.

TechTimes said these kinds of problems arise because “technology firms rush AI products to market without completely strengthening privacy protections.” However, the above privacy violations seem to be due to new features—such as the share buttons—added to existing products. 

Smaller may not be better

So if the biggest AI companies in the world make mistakes that jeopardize the privacy of their users—like not adding “no-index” tags to the chats so search engines won’t use them—can we expect smaller chatbot companion companies to do any better? 

Chatbot companion companies, including many we’ve previously mentioned here at Future of Sex, have privacy policies as well. Most users trust these companies to safeguard their own intimate interactions with the bot personas, allowing for explicit erotic roleplay. But how good are the protections, really? Consumers have no way of actually knowing.

Like the bigger AI players, the companion bot companies are also constantly adding new features for their users, with the goals of offering more value to existing accounts, attracting new customers, and increasing paid subscriptions. 

But should chatbot customers be concerned new features may create unexpected opportunities for privacy leaks? Or even jail breaks and hacking?

What to do about our own sexy chatbots?

Fortunately, TechRadar has a few suggestions for those who suspect their Grok chats might be letting it all hang out in public: 

• Don’t use the Share function on Grok—or similar features offered by any other AI— unless you want the world to know what you’ve said, forever.
• Try to find the link and if you do, ask Google for their content removal tool to delete it. However, this may not remove the chat entirely. And you will probably need to go through a similar process with other search engines. 
• Adjust your privacy settings if you chat with Grok via X, to prevent it from training on your conversations. This couldn’t hurt, might help. 

Prevention might be a better strategy than risking a privacy breach and mopping up afterwards. It hurts me to write this, but those who enjoy bot intimacy might want to consider a bot break, or at least dial back their steamy roleplays to something more tepid, leaving AI to wonder where the magic went. 

Temporary, self-imposed censorship may be the easiest way to go, at least until consumers get more transparency and iron-clad certainty about their app’s privacy protections.

Yes, it’s disappointing. But the only alternative seems to be changing society itself so that sexual matters are no longer a source of shame and embarrassment, making the matter moot–but I don’t see that happening anytime soon.

As Eric Hal Schwartz at TechRadar put it, “Finding your deepest thoughts alongside recipe blogs in search results might drive you away from the technology forever.” 

We suggest that finding one’s raunchiest digital sexcapade alongside methamphetamine recipes won’t bolster consumer trust in AI either.

Image Source: A.Marsh using Ideogram.ai

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